I've been doing a lot of research into the whole IVF thing. My biggest concern is that I am going to be going through a lot of hormone treatments, which is potentially dangerous with my condition and keeping my hormones in check. I need to have therapy and find a surrogate, and also have a minimum of $20,000 in order to get a start with the treatments. And whether we save the money or borrow it is another matter. And the worst of it is, the treatment could fail the first few times, meaning we are spending upwards of $40,000 - $50,000 and may not even have a baby in the end. Or we could have 4! It is all up in the air and up to chance.
There is also the option of adopting, which I have been thinking about more and more these days. For $30,000 and a yearly trip to China, we can adopt a baby girl and raise her like our own. We could go provincially or nationally and adopt a child (not an infant but someone that is anywhere from a toddler to a teen) and they could have a whole host of issues themselves from birth defects, to being exposed to abuse, to having mothers and/or fathers who did drugs and drank more than they took care of their children, leaving them mostly to fend for themselves. There are so many possibilities, and my biggest concern is that I really want to have a child that is biologically related to me. At least one. And I have no issues with adopting a child as well, but I truly just want at least one baby that is truly mine by genetics.
Thoughts? Share in the comments. May add more to this later when I have more time to think this through. Off to massage therapy for now. Thanks for reading!