Here is the comment, verbatim from below the article. I am outraged. And very disappointed that people can't look beyond their own superhero fertility to help someone who is unable to start a family.
"Steady employment, solid relationship, desire to start a family? That's all it takes? And since when was being a Tim Horton's supervisor at 19 called steady employment? If you ask me, these two just want to play house. Why not keep working and save you own gosh darn money so that when you're actually at a decent age to be having children you don't have to go begging other people for money? If you don't have $500.00 to put in your own savings account, what makes you think you can afford a baby? Shaking my head. Don't encourage these people."
Some people are just plain nasty, so here is my rebuttal... If you do not want to read an angry, hateful post from me, please pass this article! Insert ranting...... HERE!
EXCUSE ME?? Since when did working 40-50 hours a week as a supervisor mean that I do not have "real job"??? Because I work at a coffee shop, making a few cents over minimum wage? Because my income is guaranteed and I will not be out of a job in years to come? Because I did not need to go thousands of dollars into debt in order to have a regular job and regular income, with great employee benefits (GO TIM HORTON'S!!)? Tell me, when does having a regular job with benefits and a steady income mean that I cannot support a family? How do people do it on welfare? On social assistance? As SINGLE PARENTS?? Hmm?? Explain that to me before touting your more-righteous-than-thou speech. I am 19. Girls become mothers at 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, and 18, still in high school, and nobody bats an eye anymore! Their parents jump on board and help them raise their babies so they can live to their full potential. Some high schools offer day care! So do colleges and universities! Are you angry at me because I was born with a syndrome I cannot control, and I am asking for some financial assistance from other people? $30,000 WITH NO GUARANTEE is a LOT OF MONEY to save by yourself!!! Times that by a 32% chance of the treatments actually working, and how many times we'd have to try to make it work. How much risk in your own dollars are you willing to put in? Would you do it at all? Would you waste your time or give it a shot because the chances are slim, but you're a gambler, and are willing to gamble on having a family?
And furthermore, how do you know I don't have some money saved in the bank??? How do you know there's not thousands of dollars out there in one of my multiple bank accounts, just waiting until we are old enough and ready to go through the treatments and start a family? I asked for $500 on Indiegogo in the hopes that we could over-reach that small goal. I am not trying for a baby TOMORROW. I am trying for one SOMEDAY, and I am looking to raise awareness both for our cause (both MRKH AND Infertility in general). I am not looking for pity, I am looking for the goodness of peoples' hearts. If I could have had a baby yesterday, yes, I would have. Absolutely, 100%, without a doubt.
I've seen campaigns raise enough money to get a young disabled boy's family a wheelchair accessible van with ramp. I've seen campaigns raise money to save a cancer patient's life, and to save an abused and neglected animal from being put down and give it the veterinary care it needs! So why wouldn't I put my campaign out there and try to reach the goodness of peoples' hearts in order to start a family? I am not asking for assistance because I am poor, or because I can't afford to look after a baby. I know what babies cost. What kids cost. I know we can take that on. I just don't want to be in a large amount of debt starting out in order to do it, and I don't want to take 15 years to save all the money ourselves!
I can assure you on my income my children would not be spoiled with STUFF. They would not have the latest gadgets, iPhone 12.4 and an XBox 1000 or whatever is out at that point. My children would play outside. They would have dolls, and cars, and trucks, and my classic Nintendos and cartoons. They would go fishing every spring, bringing home strings full of rainbow trout and bass, and go hiking in the woods. They would ride their bikes along when we take the dog for a walk. My children would be in sports, getting exercise every day of the week. They would be spoiled with LOVE, and AFFECTION, and learning experiences.
Money DOES NOT EQUAL happiness, or a well-raised, well-loved child.
Thanks for reading guys... End rant.